Friday, June 17, 2016

Hello again,

I have decided to begin posting again, after the recent hate crime against LGBT people and their loved ones in Orlando, which left 49 people dead and 53 critically injured. This horrible incident led me to make a public declaration of my coming out to family and friends on Facebook.

Now as a continued part of this journey of making things "Known," as it relates to the Catholic Church's rhetoric on homosexuality, I turn my attention to an article regarding "religions" role in the hatred and targeting of LGBT people.

Please join with me to continue the fight for justice and equality of LGBT people. Bishop Lynch has done a courageous thing here in pronouncing the role Catholicism continues to play in the lives of people, who only want to love and live as free and equal people, being able to express their affection to the ones they love, without hatred or judgment or even being targeted cruelly.

God Bless!

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Hello everyone,

A young man from South Korea sent me this, hoping to find support and advice.

Dear Thurman

I am a Roman Catholic seminarian from one of South Korea dioceses, who is gay.
I have known that I am gay since my early years yet came to accept who I am just afew years ago, after being a seminarian.
Being gay and a seminarian deosn't go that easy because, as you already know, it contradicts to what the Church teaches.
Whenever I read the Cathechism, I ask myself, "Am I to be condemned? Even though I love and am loved by him?"
I have been searching for the place and someone to share. ystory, and I finally found one!
I am very happy with the fact there are many out there who experience the same matter.
Unfortunately, however, I failed to find more entries than the first two...
I think I must have missed something: I will be greatly grateful if you get me instructed.

May God bless you.

South Korea.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Hi all,
Well, I thought it was time to restart this blog. Last year, I experienced some medical problems that left me with many months of recovery. Hence, I was not able to give much effort to this blog. I am now ready to continue sharing other peoples stories. I have received emails concerning the ongoing struggles other priests are having or have had, being accepted as gay or supporting the gay communities, as priests. It is important priests, who are gay or support being gay tell their stories. This blog was created to assist in telling those stories. So, 'make it known' to others, that being gay or supporting gay people is not sinful or "abnormal", as the church would have us want to believe. If you would like to post a story, please email me.

Your friend,


Saturday, February 2, 2013

My Story of how this blog came to be:

The title for his blog was inspired by my friend, lover and partner, who uttered the words to me while I was visiting him one day in the nursing home where he was dying of cancer. These visits were difficult. I never knew whom I might meet, perhaps an angry family member or a caregiver who had no clue about who I was. But this day was different. It changed my life in more ways than one.

On this particular day, I came into the room where Antonio was being cared for and the nurse in attendance was having difficulties trying to get Antonio to cooperate with her. I explained to her that I was a good friend and had been for many years and that maybe I could help─something I was absolutely sure of─because after 28 years together with the one person who is your soulmate, anything is possible. And so, seeking to encourage him to cooperate with the nurse, I turned to Antonio to ask him if he trusted me. He nodded and said that he did trust me. I asked him if, for my sake, he would let the nurse complete her task, and he did. After she was able to complete her task, to her surprise, the nurse commented that no one had been able to do what I had just done. I told her that Father and I were best friends, very close friends. I looked at Antonio and he looked at me, and I said, “Isn’t that right, Antonio?” And to my knowing, he looked at me and uttered three words that have remained with me since he said, “Make It Known”.

After Antonio had passed away, I began to reflect on our lives together and what these three words meant. In the months that followed, it was difficult for me to express openly how much we loved each other, how much we meant to each other, all the time we spent together, the vacations, the bedroom, the walks with the dogs, the 28 years. I couldn’t help but try to make sense of those three words.

“Make It Known” is meant to encourage people to tell their stories of love. No matter how complicated, how scary or how impossible the truth is, telling your story can set you free. I was a gay man who became a priest and fell in love with another priest. Though it was it difficult, we stayed together through the years. I left the priesthood, but he stayed. It was easier for me, for I was younger and less indoctrinated to the guilt and shame, though still present, that makes it difficult for many priests to leave today (a discussion for another time).

The truth is, we were in love. It happened naturally, evolved lovingly and endured despite our disagreements. We had many discussions about our love and how it affected our relationship with the church. We were challenged often with the promise to remain celibate in the face of a love that demanded physical expression despite the teaching that that love was evil. Although this need waned over time and was eventually less important, we still remained in love. We both struggled with the shame and guilt, Antonio more than myself, but no matter, we continued on in love. Our mutual conviction that we were soul mates would see this through to the end.

This is part of my story. A story that I no longer need to hide, but a story that I can share and be open about. I hope my story of love, as a priest, can inspire your story of love and you can help “Make It Known” so that together we can inspire others to make the church more aware of the need for change.